Stand up and open a window. Or even better, go outside! Close your eyes and take in a long, deep breath. Think of the last thing that made you smile or laugh. Feel the wind on your skin and tilt your head up to the sky and just let go. Force a smile on your face and hum your favourite happy song, before you know it, your heart will feel light and the happy thoughts in your head will make you feel more positive.
Once you’ve reached this point, you’re at the start of beginning your new outlook. Sit down with your Spotify account and search for songs that make you feel happy and like you want to dance such as ‘Dance, Dance’ by Fall Out Boy. Songs that make you love yourself like ‘I Love Me’ or ‘Me Too’ by Meghan Trainor (this girl has some fab songs to make you feel good!) Add songs about finding yourself and following your dreams, my favourite is ‘Wake Me Up’ by Avicii (I seriously can’t stop tapping my foot when I hear this one!) or ‘Don’t Stop Me Now’ by Queen. Some others I would suggest would be the classic Bon Jovi songs ‘It’s My Life’, and ‘Livin On A Prayer’, ‘Paradise City’ by Guns N’ Roses, ‘All Star’ by Smash Mouth, ‘Best Years of Our Lives’ by Baha Men, ‘I’m On My Way’ by The Proclaimers, ‘Shine Your Way’ by Owl City and Yuna, and last but not least ‘On Top Of The World’ by Imagine Dragons.
There are so many more songs that can give you a positive feeling and you need to have easy access to a playlist full of them. I know how tempting it is to listen to sad songs that you feel like you relate to, but the reality is it’s going to make you feel worse. Your best bet is to plug in your headphones and listen to your happy playlist!
Next, I want you to go through your wardrobe and be ruthless! If there’s anything in there that doesn’t make you happy, whether it’s cause it clings to the wrong parts of your body or cause the colour isn’t quite right. Just throw it out! It doesn’t have to be bags and bags of items, it can just be one or two such as an old scratchy jumper or a top that looked good on a manikin, but makes your boobs look like a bag of old potatoes. Declutter your life! Trust me, you’ll feel better!
Now, this next step is pretty important, but it’s also one of the hardest steps of them all. I need you to think about your friends. All the ones you’ve ever had. Really, truly think about them and how they make you feel. Do you have any ‘friendships’ that cost you more pain than happiness? Do you feel like you’re putting in all your effort only to get nothing in return? Are there people who, yes, you may have been inseparable from once, but now you feel like they’re pushing you out of their life? If you’re thinking of someone specifically right now (or even multiple people!) then you need to consider if this friendship is worth your time. It’s not going to be easy but if you’re left crying more than laughing because of a certain person, no matter who they are or how long you’ve known them, then I have to say you need to let go. You don’t deserve to be dragged into misery. You’re worth more than that. Trust me.
If you have been brave enough to complete this step and cut any toxic relationships from your life. You might be feeling a bit nervous about what’s next. Well, now you have room for other people in your life! Join a club or find a new hobby and in return, you’ll find new like-minded people. This doesn’t have to involve spending money, it could be via a volunteer organisation. Or you can use a social networking platform such as Twitter like I did! I used blogging hashtags and communicated with other creators until I eventually became part of a small group of people who, over time, have truly become some of my closest friends.
Equally, think about whether there was a time you lost contact with an honestly good friend due to your own fault. If there truly was a reason then leave them be. BUT if you fell out over something stupid that wasn’t their fault. Maybe consider apologising and inviting them for a catch up coffee. Last year, I realised how much I was missing one of my friends after I cut her out because of a silly situation. I handled the problem badly and it took me a year to admit I had overreacted. It wasn’t easy and I can promise you I drafted my apology to her more times than I can count but it was 100% worth my time and I’m so glad I reached out and we were able to patch things up.
Lastly, you have to find your thing. Are you a baker? A traveller? A runner? Or even just someone who enjoys reading a good book from beginning to end without stopping? Find the one thing that makes you happy and figure out how to do more of it. Change your schedule to fit in time for the time you love. If that means getting up an hour earlier each day, then you gotta do it. If it means you don’t get a drink from Starbucks every morning so you can chuck an extra fiver in your savings, then that’s what you’ve got to do…Equally, if getting that Starbucks is what makes you happy, then you’ve got to think of another way to cut back. As for travelling…If you keep your eye on this blog, it’s about to become VERY travel crazy and filled with all sorts of advice for saving, packing, and planning as well as following my adventure as I jet off with a one way ticket on the 28th May!
Stick with me!